02-27-2018, 05:28 AM
Hi Fury. I have been reading your updates and praying for you and your SO. I understand your point of view on cleaning the room out. BUT please try to give HER the decision of when that should happen. I don't mean to let it go for years, but her baby of 23 YEARS has only been gone FOUR months. To her, there are probably days she wakes up and it does not even hit her right away. Then there are the nights she can't do anything but think of him.
I guess what I am trying to say is it is 4 months for everyone else BUT for her. For her, in her emotional state, that 4 months probably runs thru time frames of hours, days, weeks and I'm sure she re-lives the very time she was told about it. Just be gentle with her. I have seen first hand what losing a child (by any way, at any age) can do to a mother. Time, my friend, does not HEAL the wound. It only dulls the edges.
My heart goes out to the both of you.
Slick
I guess what I am trying to say is it is 4 months for everyone else BUT for her. For her, in her emotional state, that 4 months probably runs thru time frames of hours, days, weeks and I'm sure she re-lives the very time she was told about it. Just be gentle with her. I have seen first hand what losing a child (by any way, at any age) can do to a mother. Time, my friend, does not HEAL the wound. It only dulls the edges.
My heart goes out to the both of you.
Slick