02-08-2018, 04:02 AM
cmdline, so sorry to hear that you put yourself out there, opened up, was honest and got in return, not the support you were looking for. But, we take the risk and hope for the best. Pat yourself on the back for taking that step you felt you needed to take.
As I'm sure you know, sometimes it takes longer for our closest family and friends to adjust. But, more often than not they e v e n t u a l l y do.
I think now that it's out in the open, at least you can allow yourself to have a little bit more open control by being assertive in what YOU know YOU need.
"Yeah, sure thanks for the input on how much you think I should take, loved one, but I got it covered. I appreciate your research and your concern, and I'll take all of that into consideration when I'm making my decisions for me (with doc if you have one). I appreciate your love and concern."
As for vitamins, etc. generally speaking B12 won't hurt, (but checking with doc is always advisable). Thank them for those tips too. (Even though you know it may or may not be what you need.) Thank them for their love and concern. "God, you have no idea how much I appreciate you and your looking out for me."
Also, maybe some boundaries need to be set on this. You know, something like, "After about a week or two, we can have a talk and see how things are going for me, with my plan, your input and doc's help. In the meantime, let's see if what I'm trying is doing it's job. We can regroup later. We don't need to talk about it everyday. That just makes things worse for me, and neither of us (nor doc) wants that. So, we'll set up a regular check up type meeting."
Just a suggestion. I guess I'm kind of passive aggressive in that I'll yes you to death and do my own thing, but I've learned that if I make them feel part of my getting well (whether real or not), things can tend to go a bit more smoothly.
Like I said, just a suggestion. Maybe others can critique, add or discard some of what I've offered, which would help you more.
I hope you find the balance that you're looking for in the relationship and the whole situation.
Keep the faith.
As I'm sure you know, sometimes it takes longer for our closest family and friends to adjust. But, more often than not they e v e n t u a l l y do.
I think now that it's out in the open, at least you can allow yourself to have a little bit more open control by being assertive in what YOU know YOU need.
"Yeah, sure thanks for the input on how much you think I should take, loved one, but I got it covered. I appreciate your research and your concern, and I'll take all of that into consideration when I'm making my decisions for me (with doc if you have one). I appreciate your love and concern."
As for vitamins, etc. generally speaking B12 won't hurt, (but checking with doc is always advisable). Thank them for those tips too. (Even though you know it may or may not be what you need.) Thank them for their love and concern. "God, you have no idea how much I appreciate you and your looking out for me."
Also, maybe some boundaries need to be set on this. You know, something like, "After about a week or two, we can have a talk and see how things are going for me, with my plan, your input and doc's help. In the meantime, let's see if what I'm trying is doing it's job. We can regroup later. We don't need to talk about it everyday. That just makes things worse for me, and neither of us (nor doc) wants that. So, we'll set up a regular check up type meeting."
Just a suggestion. I guess I'm kind of passive aggressive in that I'll yes you to death and do my own thing, but I've learned that if I make them feel part of my getting well (whether real or not), things can tend to go a bit more smoothly.
Like I said, just a suggestion. Maybe others can critique, add or discard some of what I've offered, which would help you more.
I hope you find the balance that you're looking for in the relationship and the whole situation.
Keep the faith.